Allan, another of my Substack friends, Leland Katz, is your age and living in a NJ senior community, which he loves. It may help you to speak with him. Leland is probably seeing this comment. If you are interested I will send his contact info.
Allan, as you might know, I am waiting to get into affordable senior housing in my area. I am only 68, and this is not at all what I pictured for my life as I got older. It's basically an independent living senior community as well. Please keep me posted on what you are doing regarding this latest development. I am hear to talk if you want to use the DM here to get in touch. For me it is purely a financial situation. I'd much prefer the greater independence of renting a small apartment in an old house, which is what I have done for the past 16 years.
Yes, I wanted to talk and I am just reiterating and please send me your phone number if you are comfortable doing so and I hope you are and I hope to speak to you soon
Pamela, a couple of things I want to point out. 1 I am moving in the next week or two. The independent living place I’m going to is made up of small apartments some of which are single bedroom some of which are two bedroom. I am renting a single bedroom. I can have as much privacy as I want and not have to see anyone I I won’t do that because though an introvert I don’t like to just self isolate. Also, when I visited, I met many women who arranged in age from their 60s to their 90s so you won’t be alone at your age. 2. I want very much for us to speak together. Telephone would probably be the easiest. I would much rather have that direct contact with you. All of these messages.3 in addition, we can always use zoom but I’d prefer to start with telephone contact. Pamela, I am here for you and I think you’re here for me as well. So yes, the answer is absolutely yes. I’m not sure I’ve covered everything in your message, but I hope I have. As you know, the part of the problem in this life is that we never get all of what we want. So I understand what you would prefer. I would prefer to not have to give up my condominium and move. But I know because of my problems with my balance it’s much safer for me to do so. My phone number if you don’t have it is. 720-470-2028. I have one of these screening mechanisms on my phone so if you have to just leave a message or a voice message or send me your phone number in advance and I can put it in my system and you can call without a problem.
Thank you for your post. May you find a wonderful community. I can imagine all the feelings that might be present. hope you may share your journey. I do not miss one of your posts.
You're in a new season of life, and perhaps a new chapter. Try to embrace it!
I lost my husband to cancer. He was only 48. Life is hard, filled with joys and sorrows, ups and downs.
I'm reminded that old age, whatever that means nowadays, should be celebrated! Hopefully one has lived a life well-lived, or not. In any event, unlike my spouse, it means more time to experience what life has to offer.
I understand what you’re saying and completely agree with it. And I will keep you and everybody else updated as I progress through the stage of my life.
I’m 62 years old, but I feel like I’m younger. It’s hard for me to look in the mirror at times. My hair is all grey. The blonde hair is gone. I’m seeing more wrinkles, but I’d never do Botox. I feel depressed sometimes because I can feel my age creeping up on me. I don’t have the vitality I used to take for granted. I used to spend hours outside digging in the weeds and working in the garden. Exercise and outdoor activity is getting more challenging as well.
This feels like a turning point in my life. I’ve had to let go of an image I had of myself. I don’t get the attention or respect of men in the way I was formally accustomed to getting. Women often lose social status, power and desirability as they get older. I’ve experienced some prejudice from younger people that peg me as a boomer. I’m the one that destroyed the planet and ruined the economy. I’m not enjoying the aging process, but something I need to come to terms with. But, I’m also looking forward to the possibility of being a mentor. Doing my part to build bridges between generations. There’s a lot of misunderstandings and confusion in the world today. Young people need guidance and tools to navigate a complex world.
Ironically, I feel like I have more to offer the world than ever before. I feel we all have something valuable to offer.
I appreciate the fact that you always have something meaningful to share. You also have a generosity of spirit. I’m glad you have family to help you with your transition to a retirement community. I’m sure it’s not easy. It’s something I have been thinking about. I don’t want to have to move to a retirement community. But, at some point, it something that may be in my best interests. I don’t want to be a burden to my children. In a retirement you have the benefit of people that can attend to your specific needs. You deserve love and additional support at this challenging time.
I appreciate your honesty and courage. I hope you can continue your writing as your such a valuable member of the Substack community. Take care.x
Anna, you are so young and, besides that, no one should treat you badly. Well, I'm here for you and will continue to be even from my senior community. Be will and let's contue to keep in touch. If there is anything you would like me to write about please let me know. Allan
Aaah, Doc....you will have to sweep the women from your doorstep They will fight to sit with you. They will appreciate some male energy and ignore the changes made by gravity. Of course you would prefer that thirty year olds had that atttitude....and some do....and not just for money. Problem with that is that they eventually grow up and move on. What do you think?
Allan, another of my Substack friends, Leland Katz, is your age and living in a NJ senior community, which he loves. It may help you to speak with him. Leland is probably seeing this comment. If you are interested I will send his contact info.
Yes, please send the contact info
Allan, as you might know, I am waiting to get into affordable senior housing in my area. I am only 68, and this is not at all what I pictured for my life as I got older. It's basically an independent living senior community as well. Please keep me posted on what you are doing regarding this latest development. I am hear to talk if you want to use the DM here to get in touch. For me it is purely a financial situation. I'd much prefer the greater independence of renting a small apartment in an old house, which is what I have done for the past 16 years.
And one more thing Pamela here is my direct email. dransphd@gmail.com
Yes, I wanted to talk and I am just reiterating and please send me your phone number if you are comfortable doing so and I hope you are and I hope to speak to you soon
Pamela, a couple of things I want to point out. 1 I am moving in the next week or two. The independent living place I’m going to is made up of small apartments some of which are single bedroom some of which are two bedroom. I am renting a single bedroom. I can have as much privacy as I want and not have to see anyone I I won’t do that because though an introvert I don’t like to just self isolate. Also, when I visited, I met many women who arranged in age from their 60s to their 90s so you won’t be alone at your age. 2. I want very much for us to speak together. Telephone would probably be the easiest. I would much rather have that direct contact with you. All of these messages.3 in addition, we can always use zoom but I’d prefer to start with telephone contact. Pamela, I am here for you and I think you’re here for me as well. So yes, the answer is absolutely yes. I’m not sure I’ve covered everything in your message, but I hope I have. As you know, the part of the problem in this life is that we never get all of what we want. So I understand what you would prefer. I would prefer to not have to give up my condominium and move. But I know because of my problems with my balance it’s much safer for me to do so. My phone number if you don’t have it is. 720-470-2028. I have one of these screening mechanisms on my phone so if you have to just leave a message or a voice message or send me your phone number in advance and I can put it in my system and you can call without a problem.
Thank you for your post. May you find a wonderful community. I can imagine all the feelings that might be present. hope you may share your journey. I do not miss one of your posts.
Thank you, Jen. I fully intend to write about my journey, and I am very pleased to know that you enjoy my writings.
You're in a new season of life, and perhaps a new chapter. Try to embrace it!
I lost my husband to cancer. He was only 48. Life is hard, filled with joys and sorrows, ups and downs.
I'm reminded that old age, whatever that means nowadays, should be celebrated! Hopefully one has lived a life well-lived, or not. In any event, unlike my spouse, it means more time to experience what life has to offer.
Thanks! Best to you in your decisionmaking.
I understand what you’re saying and completely agree with it. And I will keep you and everybody else updated as I progress through the stage of my life.
I’m 62 years old, but I feel like I’m younger. It’s hard for me to look in the mirror at times. My hair is all grey. The blonde hair is gone. I’m seeing more wrinkles, but I’d never do Botox. I feel depressed sometimes because I can feel my age creeping up on me. I don’t have the vitality I used to take for granted. I used to spend hours outside digging in the weeds and working in the garden. Exercise and outdoor activity is getting more challenging as well.
This feels like a turning point in my life. I’ve had to let go of an image I had of myself. I don’t get the attention or respect of men in the way I was formally accustomed to getting. Women often lose social status, power and desirability as they get older. I’ve experienced some prejudice from younger people that peg me as a boomer. I’m the one that destroyed the planet and ruined the economy. I’m not enjoying the aging process, but something I need to come to terms with. But, I’m also looking forward to the possibility of being a mentor. Doing my part to build bridges between generations. There’s a lot of misunderstandings and confusion in the world today. Young people need guidance and tools to navigate a complex world.
Ironically, I feel like I have more to offer the world than ever before. I feel we all have something valuable to offer.
I appreciate the fact that you always have something meaningful to share. You also have a generosity of spirit. I’m glad you have family to help you with your transition to a retirement community. I’m sure it’s not easy. It’s something I have been thinking about. I don’t want to have to move to a retirement community. But, at some point, it something that may be in my best interests. I don’t want to be a burden to my children. In a retirement you have the benefit of people that can attend to your specific needs. You deserve love and additional support at this challenging time.
I appreciate your honesty and courage. I hope you can continue your writing as your such a valuable member of the Substack community. Take care.x
Anna, you are so young and, besides that, no one should treat you badly. Well, I'm here for you and will continue to be even from my senior community. Be will and let's contue to keep in touch. If there is anything you would like me to write about please let me know. Allan
Thanks. You’re so kind. I look forward to staying connected. Have a nice afternoon.
I would love to speak with him. I'm very nervous but I know it's the better choice.
Aaah, Doc....you will have to sweep the women from your doorstep They will fight to sit with you. They will appreciate some male energy and ignore the changes made by gravity. Of course you would prefer that thirty year olds had that atttitude....and some do....and not just for money. Problem with that is that they eventually grow up and move on. What do you think?