I fell in love over 30 years ago, we were a couple for 25 of those years. Unfortunately my Mary (28)years older than me told me "she loved me" but was no longer "in love with me" ! Strange thing is she told friends she wanted me to find someone else as she was holding me back? She wasn't and still isn't. We are best friends we live opposite each other, I'm her Chauffeur and She is my cleaner and confidante! Needless to say we are best Friends and I certainly am not looking for anything elsewhere! Yes Sex is missing but it's not the most important thing in life, I love Mary as much today if not more than the day we met ! By the way back then she actually looked Younger than Me ! She is still beautiful at 89 with smooth porcelain like skin and a smile that brings joy wherever she is. I'm rubbish at putting things down in writing but have improved massively since being on Substac and conversing with you Doc glad to see you back.
I'm glad to see you back. Well, at least you are close friends. That's a good thing. I doubt she is no longer "in love" with you but that is just a guess. I want to assure you that your writing is great and a pleasure to read.
Wendy, have you? Please let me know. And the answer is that my experience and instincts tell me that many, perhaps even most people do not. Feel free to tell me more about your life but only if you wish.
I hope one day( if you haven't already) you will find true love! When I was young I used to think I was in " True" love every girl I went out with after my youngest Daughter was born and I got custody ( my Mother and Chantels maternal grandparents looked after her more than myself in truth) I decided I'd had enough and just did as much as I could in my Career, a long story short I found the love of my life when I wasn't even looking! Best wishes Wendy I wish you well
I thought it was love at 22 but as the marriage stretched to 11 years and three children, I discovered I had married a narcissist. I didn’t even know the definition at the time. After lots of therapy I learned my father was a narcissist and probably a psychopath. His withholding love and lack of empathy felt so familiar to my childhood, I thought it was normal. I have failed at all my recent attempts and the reasons have become the subject of my Substack. The rest is developing in my memoir which has been very helpful to put on paper.
writing a memoir is enormouly helpful. I've been struggling with myself to write a memoir but something stops me. If you intend to publish your memoir I would love to read it.
My Elder Sister,my Friend,She sadly passed onto another journey, before Cathy passed away I think she was searching for love, her ex Husband was a narcissistic person who cheated on her and broke her heart, she went on to marry a person from an African country who robbed her blind and somehow sold her home whilst she was in hospital for a long time, I later found out he used to physically abuse her, I stopped that very quickly when I was told about it, I also had him deported. Sad thing really as much as I disliked him I wouldn't wish anyone harm, he was back in his own country only a few days and was killed by a hit and run truck.
My Sister still searched for love until she died, What really gets me is "Cathy was Well loved by those around her, she just didn't see it ". It's sad so many people Search for something they already have! Love isn't Sex or nice words , love is a feeling that takes over all other emotions. A state of mind that entwines your very being, you want to protect to wrap in cotton wool you want to make sure they have everything they need! Then you find out all You need is them and all they need is You. It's different to the love you have for your Animal or Avian companions because they didn't Choose you necessarily but you did choose them, that means You are their Protector, their chef,cook cleaner and the one they rely on for all their needs. The love you get in return is Amazing.
I fell in love over 30 years ago, we were a couple for 25 of those years. Unfortunately my Mary (28)years older than me told me "she loved me" but was no longer "in love with me" ! Strange thing is she told friends she wanted me to find someone else as she was holding me back? She wasn't and still isn't. We are best friends we live opposite each other, I'm her Chauffeur and She is my cleaner and confidante! Needless to say we are best Friends and I certainly am not looking for anything elsewhere! Yes Sex is missing but it's not the most important thing in life, I love Mary as much today if not more than the day we met ! By the way back then she actually looked Younger than Me ! She is still beautiful at 89 with smooth porcelain like skin and a smile that brings joy wherever she is. I'm rubbish at putting things down in writing but have improved massively since being on Substac and conversing with you Doc glad to see you back.
I'm glad to see you back. Well, at least you are close friends. That's a good thing. I doubt she is no longer "in love" with you but that is just a guess. I want to assure you that your writing is great and a pleasure to read.
What happens to the ones that never experience romantic love, true romantic love?
Wendy, have you? Please let me know. And the answer is that my experience and instincts tell me that many, perhaps even most people do not. Feel free to tell me more about your life but only if you wish.
I hope one day( if you haven't already) you will find true love! When I was young I used to think I was in " True" love every girl I went out with after my youngest Daughter was born and I got custody ( my Mother and Chantels maternal grandparents looked after her more than myself in truth) I decided I'd had enough and just did as much as I could in my Career, a long story short I found the love of my life when I wasn't even looking! Best wishes Wendy I wish you well
I thought it was love at 22 but as the marriage stretched to 11 years and three children, I discovered I had married a narcissist. I didn’t even know the definition at the time. After lots of therapy I learned my father was a narcissist and probably a psychopath. His withholding love and lack of empathy felt so familiar to my childhood, I thought it was normal. I have failed at all my recent attempts and the reasons have become the subject of my Substack. The rest is developing in my memoir which has been very helpful to put on paper.
writing a memoir is enormouly helpful. I've been struggling with myself to write a memoir but something stops me. If you intend to publish your memoir I would love to read it.
My Elder Sister,my Friend,She sadly passed onto another journey, before Cathy passed away I think she was searching for love, her ex Husband was a narcissistic person who cheated on her and broke her heart, she went on to marry a person from an African country who robbed her blind and somehow sold her home whilst she was in hospital for a long time, I later found out he used to physically abuse her, I stopped that very quickly when I was told about it, I also had him deported. Sad thing really as much as I disliked him I wouldn't wish anyone harm, he was back in his own country only a few days and was killed by a hit and run truck.
My Sister still searched for love until she died, What really gets me is "Cathy was Well loved by those around her, she just didn't see it ". It's sad so many people Search for something they already have! Love isn't Sex or nice words , love is a feeling that takes over all other emotions. A state of mind that entwines your very being, you want to protect to wrap in cotton wool you want to make sure they have everything they need! Then you find out all You need is them and all they need is You. It's different to the love you have for your Animal or Avian companions because they didn't Choose you necessarily but you did choose them, that means You are their Protector, their chef,cook cleaner and the one they rely on for all their needs. The love you get in return is Amazing.