I hear you, Allan. I recognise everything you've shared in my conversations with my father and what he couldn't articulate later when he was really ill. May I offer, as you already know based on your other articles, talking and more talking or writing-sharing your thoughts with your family can help. Even when there's no action to take, sharing how we each feel is a loving way to release frustration and stay close. One family I know started recording old stories of traditions they had or family history, and it offered a productive space / conduit / exchange on equal footing—just a thought.
Victoria, that is a great thought and it is exactly what I’m doing and I wanna urge everyone who is struggling with the aging process follow those same suggestions. And I will continue. Talk to people and to write.
Thanks Allan...well said. This appears to be spot on..."I still find it difficult to accept that I need help". Not only true as we age, but sometimes life long. Go well.
Allan, I hope you are settling in to your new place. As you know my daughter already helps me with a lot of things. Sometimes it is too much for both of us. It is what it is for now. If I can ever get some things straightened out in my life I might need less help.
I can’t call it getting settled. I feel so far out of my own environment that it’s beyond my ability to explain. Also, I don’t think there is ever such a thing as getting things straightened out because there are always other things. We need help, especially as we age and I see that now in this independent living community: maybe the topic of my next essay. Stay in touch with me.
Allan, I am so sorry that things feel so different and unlike your own environment. I can imagine. I’m a creature of routine, you probably are too, which makes this more difficult I am sure. I am hear to listen, to read, and thinking of you.
While not the same as your situation, my daughter now asks me to text her when I arrive safely driving to or from Va. when she first said this a year ago, I knew it was the beginning and I appreciated it.
This post by Dr. Schwartz helps all of us to better understand the fluid and evolving relationship we have with loved ones and those in our communities as we age. I look forward to each of the author’s blogs because it reminds me of how what I do in life now, dictates how I will fare in the difficult “golden” years soon to come.
In the below video, I spotlight a friend’s mom during a visit from me. Sadly my friend couldn’t visit her mom (Nell) so I did in her place. Nell passed quietly a few years ago. We all miss her.
I hear you, Allan. I recognise everything you've shared in my conversations with my father and what he couldn't articulate later when he was really ill. May I offer, as you already know based on your other articles, talking and more talking or writing-sharing your thoughts with your family can help. Even when there's no action to take, sharing how we each feel is a loving way to release frustration and stay close. One family I know started recording old stories of traditions they had or family history, and it offered a productive space / conduit / exchange on equal footing—just a thought.
Victoria, that is a great thought and it is exactly what I’m doing and I wanna urge everyone who is struggling with the aging process follow those same suggestions. And I will continue. Talk to people and to write.
Thanks Allan...well said. This appears to be spot on..."I still find it difficult to accept that I need help". Not only true as we age, but sometimes life long. Go well.
Ian, do you mind if I think of you as a friend of mine? I hope not. I promise something about me. I still need help, 82 years old.
Friends across the oceans Allan. You have 10 years on me but I look forward to writing as cogently as you do when I reach 82. Blessings to you mate.
Ten years is noting my friend
Allan, I hope you are settling in to your new place. As you know my daughter already helps me with a lot of things. Sometimes it is too much for both of us. It is what it is for now. If I can ever get some things straightened out in my life I might need less help.
I can’t call it getting settled. I feel so far out of my own environment that it’s beyond my ability to explain. Also, I don’t think there is ever such a thing as getting things straightened out because there are always other things. We need help, especially as we age and I see that now in this independent living community: maybe the topic of my next essay. Stay in touch with me.
Allan, I am so sorry that things feel so different and unlike your own environment. I can imagine. I’m a creature of routine, you probably are too, which makes this more difficult I am sure. I am hear to listen, to read, and thinking of you.
While not the same as your situation, my daughter now asks me to text her when I arrive safely driving to or from Va. when she first said this a year ago, I knew it was the beginning and I appreciated it.
This post by Dr. Schwartz helps all of us to better understand the fluid and evolving relationship we have with loved ones and those in our communities as we age. I look forward to each of the author’s blogs because it reminds me of how what I do in life now, dictates how I will fare in the difficult “golden” years soon to come.
In the below video, I spotlight a friend’s mom during a visit from me. Sadly my friend couldn’t visit her mom (Nell) so I did in her place. Nell passed quietly a few years ago. We all miss her.
https://youtu.be/Ib312TJbjTI
Leif thank you