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I'm happy this helped but I learned a long time ago with regard to myself that there is nothing to be gained by regretting the past.

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Me too. And Pamela I looked at that photo of you. Beautiful. If only I was a younger man. Oh well😋😜🥰🤪

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Wonderful, well-written article!

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Thank you

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This energy/tiredness explanation is fairly recent. I didn't encounter it until about 10 years ago, and it instantly matched everything, a giant AHA.

If this level of understanding had been available when I was young, I would have taken a different career path without any shame. I was "expected" to be a teacher, so I went that way, and burned out after a few years, used up all the available gumption. I didn't understand why it happened until the new explanation surfaced.

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I am an introvert. I haven't read "Quiet" because it seemed so "workplace" orientated and that is something I have avoided much of my adult life, being self employed. I'm also an empath so large crowds and certain types of events are difficult for me.

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Actually it isn't work place oriented. I enjoyed it because I'm an introvert and she normalizes being an introvert in all settings. I found it very supportive. However, there is no need to read it as long as you know that we introverts are perfectly mentally healthy.

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I have her other book, "Bittersweet," I need to read that. I have such a large stack of books to read, too, too many. Whatever happened to the word, "ambivert," you never see that used anymore. I always thought of myself as more of a ambivert, particularly when I was younger.

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I also have too many books to read and feel inundated with them

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I find myself more drawn to watching movies lately.

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For me it's watching repeats of my favorite TV programs

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I do that sometimes too. I like watching movies better than TV series.

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It’s true that we don’t see the word ambivert anymore and I don’t know why. In actuality everyone is on a scale from introversion to extroversion and we move back and forth depending in circumstances. There are times when I am extroverted and afterwards I think back and wonder to myself how did that happen. But, Pamela and everyone we human beings slide across temperaments and emotions and persoanlity types. Pamela, good point and maybe the subject for a posting.

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Really interesting, thank you.

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Nice article very thought provoking. Complete extrovert in my younger years in the hospitality industry. After some consideration became a tradesman and more of an introvert, and have remained that way since. I liked both sides of the equation.

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Thanks for the comment. Yes, we do change

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I'm with you all the way

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Hey Allan! Thanks for this defense of introverts. I feel like in schools they really tend to design the classroom exercises around extroverts. I always disliked that about school. I feel like I used to do all the work in group projects and I didn't like giving presentations. But after I started writing online, I really started thriving. Thanks for this great post. I've subscribed!

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Oh my! I resonate with this. I used to feel ostracized in my class. Other kids were all chattering, gossiping and I would wear ear plugs because I hate that noise. But I loved being in that learning atmosphere when teachers used to teach us. Quietly absorbing, understanding the topic, appreciating the beauty of it...aaah!

But Thomas it is important to furnish our public speaking and presentation skills. Introverts just need that practice in speaking; rest our thinking, forming concise ideas is already taken care of.

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I do find me thinking about the fact that my contemplation and processing of thoughts and feelings internally do affect my ability to be present in the moment and be spontaneous. I would love to live life and beautiful moments without thinking but by just being there, experiencing it.

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A proposal, without evidence:

Introverts type in lower case

EXTROVERTS TYPE IN UPPER CASE

A proposal, with evidence:

mOroNS tYpE wiTH nO rEgaRD to bASic PunCTUatIOn (aNd LOVE eXclAmATIon MaRks!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

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I wish I had legs like that opening picture. Will introversion give me legs like that? Haha.

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