Great post. thank you. I have BPD and when I argue with my husband I go from 0 to 100 in a few seconds. Is it arrogant of me when I tell him not to yell at me while I'm so angry because it's like adding fuel to the fire? He gets it as if I was saying to shut up and take it, but that's not what I mean. All I mean is that if he stays as calm as possible and leaves me alone for like 10 minutes it's better for the both of us. Any advice on how I can communicate this message better? many thanks!
Allan, I am glad you felt heard and also really appreciate this essay and how you used your own circumstances to discuss a very important multi-level topic.
Great post. thank you. I have BPD and when I argue with my husband I go from 0 to 100 in a few seconds. Is it arrogant of me when I tell him not to yell at me while I'm so angry because it's like adding fuel to the fire? He gets it as if I was saying to shut up and take it, but that's not what I mean. All I mean is that if he stays as calm as possible and leaves me alone for like 10 minutes it's better for the both of us. Any advice on how I can communicate this message better? many thanks!
Allan, I am glad you felt heard and also really appreciate this essay and how you used your own circumstances to discuss a very important multi-level topic.