For me, that is the crux of the matter: "When an event goes against our personal morals and values, it causes anxiety and even depression." Every belief and value I had as a child and young adult has been upended over the past few years.
Thank you for providing a political framing for cognitive dissonance. We may experience a lot of this not only in relationship to ourselves, but in relationship to others. The news media coverage doesn’t help to bridge understanding or communication. We often seek a sense of the familiar or the known through tribal engagement. That may provide some reassurance and emotional regulation. But, if we’re not challenged by frameworks that are beyond what we already know, we risk choosing the safety of the ‘known’ over the challenge of personal growth. Sometimes experiences and people that challenge us become our greatest teachers.
I agree with you, but there is one important factor to consider. When an event goes against our personal morals and values it causes anxiety and even depression. So, it is not a matter of seeking the familiar. I agree with you that going out of our safety zone promotes growth. But, when that means heading into the territory of not caring about others it's just too much. And it's not just political. It's personal. If I telll someone I agree with their far right wing thinking I am violating my beliefs just so they will like me and that creates self condemnation.
Thank you for clarifying your position. It makes sense what you said. The desire for approval by others can be strong motivator. People can unknowingly undermine their own sense of values and integrity.
For me, that is the crux of the matter: "When an event goes against our personal morals and values, it causes anxiety and even depression." Every belief and value I had as a child and young adult has been upended over the past few years.
That's what I believe and friends, family and people like yourself have told me they feel the same way. It's hard.
Thank you for providing a political framing for cognitive dissonance. We may experience a lot of this not only in relationship to ourselves, but in relationship to others. The news media coverage doesn’t help to bridge understanding or communication. We often seek a sense of the familiar or the known through tribal engagement. That may provide some reassurance and emotional regulation. But, if we’re not challenged by frameworks that are beyond what we already know, we risk choosing the safety of the ‘known’ over the challenge of personal growth. Sometimes experiences and people that challenge us become our greatest teachers.
I agree with you, but there is one important factor to consider. When an event goes against our personal morals and values it causes anxiety and even depression. So, it is not a matter of seeking the familiar. I agree with you that going out of our safety zone promotes growth. But, when that means heading into the territory of not caring about others it's just too much. And it's not just political. It's personal. If I telll someone I agree with their far right wing thinking I am violating my beliefs just so they will like me and that creates self condemnation.
Thank you for clarifying your position. It makes sense what you said. The desire for approval by others can be strong motivator. People can unknowingly undermine their own sense of values and integrity.
Exactly
I have this in alarming amounts! Meditation helps. Watching murder mysteries instead of too many news reports. Writing helps.
Definitely