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Allan, I am sure that there are some aspects of your move that are painful. I may find myself in your position someday and am imagining how I may feel. But, you are very fortunate to have found a suitable and affordable new home which many if not most cannot attain. And, you are very fortunate to have the support of family and friends that many in their 80’s don’t have.

Two years ago my wife and I visited a senior facility in Virginia which appeared to be suitable for our relocation. We did not move there but were overwhelmed by how welcoming the residents were and, especially, how they quickly stepped forward to help each other when help was needed. Had it been closer to my wife’s family we would have made the move there. Now, we are approaching our late 70’s and 80’s and it is inevitable that our large and beautiful custom built home will be too burdensome for us and we will have to move, probably to Va. I hope that we can do so as painlessly as possible. I look forward to hearing more about your new experiences and I am confident you will develop a circle of new friends who will enrich your life. Focus on the positive.

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Marc, I hope it comes as no surprise that you are one of the friends I was referring to on Substack. And we will talk on the phone. I want to, very much.

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How about today at 3:00 Eastern?

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I’m expecting a call and my daughters coming over

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Allan, This is a lovely meandering essay. I hope your transition to your new home is easy and I am so glad you've had so much help from your family.

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My friend, I will keep in close touch.

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I know you will!

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I am so touched by this post. The honesty and vulnerability you embody are refreshing and beautiful. I'm so moved. Wishing you the best as you make your move.

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Thank you so much. I really appreciate it.

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You’re welcome!

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Marc, let's schedule a better time for both of us. I'm free tomorrow, Tuesday the 11th. If that works, what time works for you? Allan

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All the best to you and Nikki! That was quite enjoyable to read just as it was.

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